by Kaushambi Chakraborty
When we were in our childhood days, the one thing that all of us were taught irrespective of our race, culture, caste and creed was compassion. Feeling another’s pain, trying to be sympathetic, these were a few things that were always encouraged in contrast to mocking others, making fun of their weaknesses and ridiculing their shortcomings. As children, we all stuck to these moral lessons. With that angelic smile and a halo round our head, we helped others and supported our peers irrespective of how much we disliked them.
But as we grew older and we developed those tiny little horns, things changed for us. Now, If we don’t like someone, we leave no stone unturned to make their life miserable. Not a single opportunity is missed to make them feel horrible and suddenly we see ourselves growing fond of people whose object of dislike matches with ours.
For everyone who thinks this is going to be one big sermon about how we should try to like people and accept them with their shortcomings and have made up their minds to give this article amiss, well that’s exactly what this article isn’t about. I’m not going to preach about accepting people with their flaws, neither am I going to say that holding grudges against people or laughing at a friend who’s in misery is just so kiddish and its time to grow up. Rather I believe that we should do exactly all these things!
Sometimes, we just don’t know why we are being so mean to someone. We see someone dying in a movie, we feel relieved, someone trips and has a bad fall, we just can’t stop laughing. The nerd in your class gets scolded by the teacher, you can barely suppress your giggles! I definitely have felt this way an umpteen number of times and not just me, I’m pretty sure most of you out there have experienced this at least once and for the one’s who deny all of this, I feel extremely sorry for you.
For everyone who thinks this is going to be one big sermon about how we should try to like people and accept them with their shortcomings and have made up their minds to give this article amiss, well that’s exactly what this article isn’t about. I’m not going to preach about accepting people with their flaws, neither am I going to say that holding grudges against people or laughing at a friend who’s in misery is just so kiddish and its time to grow up. Rather I believe that we should do exactly all these things!
- Each one of us should dislike atleast one person on this planet. It’s perfectly human to have one’s own opinions. Everyone is a different person, something which might seem completely frivolous to one, may hold a significant place in another’s life and if by some chance both these people have to spend a huge amount of time in each other’s company, dislike and eventually hatred cannot be avoided. Holding negative feelings for someone and being judgmental does not make you a negative person. I would suggest, always make sure that you make your disapproval or disdain known. There is absolutely no point in keeping all that sarcasm, contempt and hatred bottled up inside you. That is what’s going to make you a bitter and horrible person.
- Laughing at a friend’s miserable condition. Not something that would win you brownies with your peers but still, would you rather be genuine with your friends than just do and say what is politically correct? If you think a person deserves what they got or what happened to them, if you knew right from the start that he/she had it coming, why not simply tell them that? They may not like you at that point of time but if they really value your friendship, sooner or later they will come around.
Sometimes, we just don’t know why we are being so mean to someone. We see someone dying in a movie, we feel relieved, someone trips and has a bad fall, we just can’t stop laughing. The nerd in your class gets scolded by the teacher, you can barely suppress your giggles! I definitely have felt this way an umpteen number of times and not just me, I’m pretty sure most of you out there have experienced this at least once and for the one’s who deny all of this, I feel extremely sorry for you.
Either people like you don’t bother yourself enough to formulate an opinion, which is very absurd or else you are someone who likes to please everyone around them. You want to feature in everybody’s good books and you prefer keeping your feelings and opinions bottled in there. While you think that this is going to make everyone like you, someone out there will dislike you for not being yourself. It’s better if you just let it all out. Your sweet nature on the outside is probably just making you a very bitter person on the inside.
However there is a fine line between being spiteful and honest. Telling someone on their face that you don’t like something about them is honesty and that’s appreciated but being extremely nice to a person upfront and really hurtful the moment they turn their back on you is being simply mean. For all those people with double standards, your opinions are not worth pondering over because you do not have it in you to tell the person on their face what you feel about them. That makes you a coward and who takes a coward seriously.
So this one was for all the haters. You have no idea what an awesome job you guys are doing by hating someone. It’s a brilliant way to let out your frustration. It might actually make you a better person with a clear conscience! For the one’s who find it extremely hard to give someone a piece of your mind, try doing it once, it feels as though someone just took an elephant off your chest! For other’s who prefer sending hate mail, congratulations! Your probably one of the saddest soul’s around and no one can make you feel worse than you already do. And for all the one’s who have been hated at some point of time and don’t find those thoughts comforting, its cool to be hated! It means you actually matter to someone so much that all your activities piss them off so cheer up, ruining someone’s day by simply smiling has its own perks!
However there is a fine line between being spiteful and honest. Telling someone on their face that you don’t like something about them is honesty and that’s appreciated but being extremely nice to a person upfront and really hurtful the moment they turn their back on you is being simply mean. For all those people with double standards, your opinions are not worth pondering over because you do not have it in you to tell the person on their face what you feel about them. That makes you a coward and who takes a coward seriously.
So this one was for all the haters. You have no idea what an awesome job you guys are doing by hating someone. It’s a brilliant way to let out your frustration. It might actually make you a better person with a clear conscience! For the one’s who find it extremely hard to give someone a piece of your mind, try doing it once, it feels as though someone just took an elephant off your chest! For other’s who prefer sending hate mail, congratulations! Your probably one of the saddest soul’s around and no one can make you feel worse than you already do. And for all the one’s who have been hated at some point of time and don’t find those thoughts comforting, its cool to be hated! It means you actually matter to someone so much that all your activities piss them off so cheer up, ruining someone’s day by simply smiling has its own perks!