The sheer thought of not seeing the love of your life for months pressurises most of them into calling it quits as people have this notion that the distance kills the passion and sucks the life out of any relationship. They believe that the spark dies out and hey, no one wants to be in a dull and boring relationship!
Be it a late night call, Skype or random spontaneous texts! These are the things that make a long distance relationship work no matter what! Couples begin to really appreciate each other and waste no time in expressing themselves in the little time that they get to talk. In short these relationships teach people to get in touch with their emotions and communicate freely with the person whom they love!
2. ME TIME!
One thing that you will find almost anybody who is in a relationship complain about at some point or the other is that the relationship is eating into their ‘ME TIME’. Yes, everybody enjoys spending a lot of time with their better half but at some point of time all the excess attention and the compulsion to always or rather most of the time be in each other’s company does get stifling. Long distance relationships definitely ensure that not only do you get to be independent but you also get to spend some quality me time and not feel guilty about it. you could read that book, take those dance classes, go to college/work, watch your favorite show and talk to the love of your life when you are done with your daily schedule. This leaves you more relaxed and you participate more actively in what little communication you two have making it more enjoyable!
3. VALUE THE MOMENTS THAT YOU SHARE TOGETHER
Sit down with anybody who is in a long distance relationship and they will have perfectly detailed stories to tell you about some fun and cute moments that they had shared with their better half the last time they were together. Right from the color of the sky to the minute details of how their partner had worn their hair that day, they will tell you everything! These things do make you realize how much we value the moments that we share with people whom we don’t meet often. The fact that we don’t meet them often keeps us hanging onto the minute specific details of the moments that we share together. In several cases we hang onto these memories and pass our days until we meet again!
Couples save up for months to be able to make that surprise visit to their partners place. No matter how difficult and painfully long the journey might be, the sheer thought of what’s at the end of the road makes these people go on! So many of them choose to go on holidays together, do fun and adventurous stuff! And although that would probably mean that most of the time they are too distracted to pay attention to the touristy stuff, meeting your loved one after a really long time is definitely priceless! Even if you are not doing conventional fun stuff or seeing new places, it is interesting to see how regular day to day mundane activities like shopping and going on a walk can become so much more fun when it involves your partner!
If other than trust if there is something that a long distance relationship thrives on then it is definitely the surprises! People learn to surprise their significant other. It need not always involve huge expensive gifts. Sometimes a handwritten letter, a post card with a small message, a short two line e-mail can do wonders. These small gestures are the ones that keep the relationship fresh and from getting boring.
No one ever said long distance relationships were easy. Where some of them don’t work out, there are many that do! Ultimately its up to us to decide whether or not our partner is worth the hard work. Such an arrangement involves a lot of commitment from both sides and the positive side is, if you manage to get past this phase, your relationship can probably survive anything! So the next time you want to break up or see a dear friend of yours go through this phase, think about it and make them think over whether a break up is necessary.
After all distance does make the heart grow fonder! This definitely should make you want to give it a shot!
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