by Sowmya Mohan
I was panting heavily unable to even breathe. Several emotions were coursing through me,
the foremost of which was anger. I seriously considered punching my fist through the wall but
that wasn’t the most intelligent decision as I was in a corridor full of people. I got into my car,
slammed the door shut and started driving out of the place. I kept replaying the fight in my
mind, hearing the hateful words and accusations all over again. I was so worked up about the
fight that I really wasn’t looking at where I was going. A split second was all it took to happen.
My car swerved to the right, rolled over and I lost consciousness. When I came to, it seemed
that the world had come crumbling down upon my head. I had lost one of my legs and was
crippled for life!
the foremost of which was anger. I seriously considered punching my fist through the wall but
that wasn’t the most intelligent decision as I was in a corridor full of people. I got into my car,
slammed the door shut and started driving out of the place. I kept replaying the fight in my
mind, hearing the hateful words and accusations all over again. I was so worked up about the
fight that I really wasn’t looking at where I was going. A split second was all it took to happen.
My car swerved to the right, rolled over and I lost consciousness. When I came to, it seemed
that the world had come crumbling down upon my head. I had lost one of my legs and was
crippled for life!
The above is just one of the unfortunate aftermaths or effects of having a temper tantrum.
Getting angry and short tempered is just part of who we are but letting our anger get the better
of us can lead to unfortunate results. Most of the time we end up hurting ourselves or our
loved ones because of our anger. Even though letting out our emotions can be healthy, we
should learn to keep our temper in check and deal with our emotions positively.
• The simplest and perhaps the most recommended method to keep our anger in check
is to take deep breaths when we feel ourselves exploding. This may not be the best of
advices since it is really really hard to follow but with practice and patience, changing
our breathing pattern may actually be a pretty good idea to control our temper.
• Try to react after calming down a little. We are not forbidden to express our anger. But
we have to make sure that we don’t hurt feelings and be insensitive with our words. But
expressing ourselves after calming down can rationalize our arguments and bring out
results more fruitful than lashing out without a thought.
• Extending our ire for long durations can also be disastrous. Holding a grudge and looking
out for revenge takes a toll on our mental strength and leaves us emotionally drained.
Try not to hold grudges and practice forgiveness. It eases our mind and brings with it a
sense of peace and tranquility.
• A person with a good sense of humor can easily overcome his temper. If you try to find
humor in all the situations you will not feel nervous, frustrated or angry. Try practicing
humor and employ the humorous side of your personality to situations.
• The last but not the least, try to remember that “This too passes”. Every moment of the
present will become memories some day. No one wishes to taint his memories with
bitterness and hurt. Hence it is imperative that we control our temper lest we regret it
later.
Getting angry and short tempered is just part of who we are but letting our anger get the better
of us can lead to unfortunate results. Most of the time we end up hurting ourselves or our
loved ones because of our anger. Even though letting out our emotions can be healthy, we
should learn to keep our temper in check and deal with our emotions positively.
• The simplest and perhaps the most recommended method to keep our anger in check
is to take deep breaths when we feel ourselves exploding. This may not be the best of
advices since it is really really hard to follow but with practice and patience, changing
our breathing pattern may actually be a pretty good idea to control our temper.
• Try to react after calming down a little. We are not forbidden to express our anger. But
we have to make sure that we don’t hurt feelings and be insensitive with our words. But
expressing ourselves after calming down can rationalize our arguments and bring out
results more fruitful than lashing out without a thought.
• Extending our ire for long durations can also be disastrous. Holding a grudge and looking
out for revenge takes a toll on our mental strength and leaves us emotionally drained.
Try not to hold grudges and practice forgiveness. It eases our mind and brings with it a
sense of peace and tranquility.
• A person with a good sense of humor can easily overcome his temper. If you try to find
humor in all the situations you will not feel nervous, frustrated or angry. Try practicing
humor and employ the humorous side of your personality to situations.
• The last but not the least, try to remember that “This too passes”. Every moment of the
present will become memories some day. No one wishes to taint his memories with
bitterness and hurt. Hence it is imperative that we control our temper lest we regret it
later.
Anger can be disastrous if we are not properly equipped to deal with it. Relax, sit back and
enjoy while making sure that you harness your emotions before they go out of control.
enjoy while making sure that you harness your emotions before they go out of control.